I went with some friends to see a local band at my campus's student bar, and I've developed a crush on the guitarist. He's also a student at my uni and we held eye contact during the gig. I didn't go up to talk to him or anything because I'm super shy. Fast forward a few months and they are playing the same venue. My friend and I went to the bar for dinner that night in order to get a table before it got crowded (it was packed the time before). When he walked into the bar he seemed jolted when he saw me...maybe not expecting that I'd be there already. As he and his band set up their equipment he seemed to be eavesdropping on me and my friend's conversation (I was telling her about the pieces of art I made for an art show). As the night went on I mostly stuck with my friends, and everyone, audience and band, were having an awesome time. After the first set they mentioned they were selling t-shirts, so I approached my crush in order to buy a shirt. I complimented his playing and told him how great their music makes me feel, then I said how much I liked the design on the t-shirt. He was smiling a lot and was so enthusiastic about telling me how the artist who designed them is one of his best friends. He told me that the artist was going to be showing his work later in the month at the campus bar we were at. I was smitten and basically kept smiling, saying 'Awesome!', then went back to my friends. So the show is this Monday...I really want to go, not only because my crush will be there, but I really like his friend's art as well. I'm scared to go alone, since I usually only go out with friends (and none of them are interested in going to an art show, much less on a Monday). Basically: would he think it's creepy if I showed up to this art show alone without knowing anyone there already? or would he view this as an opportunity to catch me alone?
I'm probably reading way too much into this, and I'm sorry this is long, but it's been bugging me...
OMG. GO GO GO. First of all, it’s not creepy at all to go see an art show you are interested in. Second of all, YES, it’s an awesome opportunity to have some more one-on-one chat time with your crush (he doesn’t have to feel intimidated approaching you with a group of your friends).
My friend texted my crush, "my friend likes you"? He said, "Who is it?" My friend said, "Well, I can't tell you, but she's a freshman". And he guessed that it was some girl THAT WASN'T ME.We aren't on a speaking level, I just thought he might've liked me (because I'm an idiot). The girl is an Asian like me, and I live in a predominantly Caucasian town so I'm worried that he got the feeling that I like him, and mixed me up with that other Asian girl in a case of the “all-asians-look-alike” syndrome. She’s not even a freshman and we look nothing alike! So if this is the case, I’m very offended. But another friend said that he might’ve guessed her on purpose so that my friend could be like, “no it’s not her, but she IS asian.” So he would know for sures that its me becausehereallydoeslikeme… there’s only two Asian freshmen and I’m the only one that’s friends with my friend. If you read all of this, thankyousomuch!! I know it’s long. Should I keep on liking him? I’m going insane!
You’re in luck because I happen to have an Asian guest blogger on hand to answer all Asian-related questions. He’s Japanese and he also grew up in a smaller town so I think he’s pretty qualified.
After reading your story he said, “There’s no way that this guy is mixing her up with the other Asian girl in town, especially if they look completely different. The “all-Asians-look-alike” thing mostly happens when you’re living in a bigger city that has a ton of Asians.”
At this point he also started doing a lot of sassy, “Oh no he didn’t” finger wagging:
I’m not completely sure why. Then he suggested you could plan an elaborate trick where you pretend to be the other Asian girl in a note and then try to sneakily find out which one of you he actually likes. I’m pretty sure he was joking.
So what should you do? We’re not exactly sure. Maybe try saying “hi” the next time you see him? See how he responds. Then maybe try starting a conversation with him. MAYBE.
Oh, and if you’d like more advice like the kind you got here, my friend says to check out his upcoming website: BetterAskAnAsian.com (also joking? MAYBE)